Monthly Archives: March 2012
Tip #4 Call in those favors!
Now is not the time to be shy! You are getting married and hopefully your friends are ecstatic for you! If any of them happen to be photographers, florists, or designers of any kind, it’s not out of line to ask if they’d be willing to donate some of their time or talents in place of a more traditional gift. Especially if you’ve helped them out before; an exchange of talents is only fair! PLEASE keep in mind, though, that expecting them to do everything for free may be asking too much! Knowing how much you could be spending for another professional will help you gauge how your friend’s time is worth, so do your homework before approaching them! This is vital, as it will avoid awkward situations in a serious way.
I have a pretty big family. And, lucky for my wedding budget, they also happen to be pretty talented! My older sister—a graphic designer—designed our wedding announcement. My cousin—a seamstress—created the frilly over-dress that I wanted at a discount for me. My husband’s mother—a pastry chef—did a lot of the food herself, including our delicious cake. I also have two amazing friends who took care of our photography on the big day and a couple of co-workers (who owned a floral business) got me a discount on the floral elements I used.
And, remember my friend, Julianna? Well, her gorgeous pictures were taken by a phenomenally talented friend of the family, who was willing to give Julianna a huge discount in exchange for getting to use the photos in her budding portfolio. Never hurts to ask!
As a child I learned to make beaded jewelry from my mother. When I was old enough to work in her book store I spent a great deal of time reading and learned a lot about the meanings for crystals and stones. Once I had started selling my jewelry, I felt it would be helpful for the recipient to know the meanings, and I tried to include it whenever possible. This knowledge was very beneficial during a period of time that I worked as a Certified Childbirth Educator for Swedish Hospital in Seattle. I noticed soon-to-be mom’s really connecting with one another by the end of the class series. Occasionally, on the last class, women would even bring gifts for the other expecting mom’s. These gifts were always something that was intended to welcome their baby, give them strength in labor or to use as a focal point during their labors. I was moved by this gesture time and time again, as were the recipients of the gifts.
This happened often enough that I started using a Birthing Bracelet idea for each of my classes. I asked every couple to bring one bead for each of the other expecting mothers in the class. I would bring the supplies and we would string the beads into bracelets that they could keep forever. Each participant handed out their beads and shared the reason for the bead they chose. Many times it was the color, or the healing properties of the stone, and often it was a charm that held a special meaning. Over the course of many classes I learned the properties of stones that I hadn’t even heard of. One day I ran into a woman that had taken my class years prior and she told me that she wore the bracelet on her second pregnancy as well, and that her youngest daughter occasionally wears the bracelet.
You can use this same idea to build a bride’s bracelet. A sweet gesture and a fun moment for a wedding shower. All the attendees could bring a stone or bead to contribute to the bracelet? One with a meaning, or a wish for them to take into their new married life. Whether they wear it, or keep it tucked away in a safe place, your wishes will be with them always. What a fabulous ‘something old’, or ‘something new’ to give a bride. You can add charms to an existing bracelet like these below:
Or suggest a color scheme, or a theme such as Vintage, or Pearls as in these next two.
If it ends up being something that doesn’t fit the bride’s style or color scheme, just make it long enough to be worn as an anklet under her wedding gown.
Here are some of the meanings I have discovered (Alternate stones are listed in parentheses):
Capricorn (De c 22 – Jan 20) – Ruby
Aquarius (Jan 21 – Feb 21) – Garnet
Pisces (Feb 22 – March 21) – Amethyst
Aries (March 22 – April 20) – Bloodstone (Jasper)
Taurus (April 21 – May 21) – Sapphire
Gemini (May 22 – June 21) – Agate
Cancer (June 22 – July 22) – Emerald
Leo (July 23 – August 22) – Onyx
Virgo (August 23 – Sept 22) – Carnelian
Libra (Sept 23 – Oct 23) – Chrysolite (Peridot)
Scorpio (Oct 24 – Nov 21) – Aquamarine
Sagittarius (Nov 23 – Dec 21) – Topaz
Amazonite – prosperity
Crystal quartz – harmony
Jasper – grounding
Lapis lazuli – intuition
Onyx – balance
Pearl – purity
Peridot – health and wealth
Rhodochrosite – love
Serpentine – clarity
Sodalite – wisdom
Tourmaline – strength
Turquoise – peace
January – Garnet
February – Amethyst
March – Aquamarine
April – Diamond
May – Emerald
June – Pearl
July – Ruby
August – Peridot
September – Sapphire
October – Opal
November – Topaz
December – Turquoise / Blue Zircon / Blue Topaz
January – Garnet
February – Amethyst
March – Bloodstone
April – Diamond
May – Emerald
June – Alexandrite
July – Ruby
August – Sardonyx
September – Sapphire
October – Tourmaline
November – Citrine
December – Turquoise
Wedding Anniversary Stones:
1st Gold (Peridot)
3rd Pearl (Jade)
4th Blue Topaz (Blue Zircon)
5th Sapphire (Pink Tourmaline)
6th Amethyst (Turquoise)
7th Onyx (Yellow Sapphire, Golden Beryl)
8th Tourmaline (Tanzanite)
9th Lapis Lazuli (Amethyst, Green Spinel)
10th Diamond (Blue Sapphire)
11th Turquoise (Citrine, Yellow Zircon)
12th Jade (Opal)
13th Citrine (Moonstone, Hawk’s Eye)
14th Opal (Agate, Bloodstone)
15th Ruby (Rhodolite Garnet, Alexandrite)
16th Peridot (Red Spinel)
17th Wristwatch (Carnelian)
18th Cat’s Eye / Chrysoberyl (Aquamarine)
19th Aquamarine (Almandine Garnet)
20th Emerald (Yellow or Golden Diamond)
23rd Imperial Topaz
25th Silver (Tsavorite, Green Garnet)
45th Sapphire (Cat’s Eye)
50th Golden (Imperial / Golden Topaz)
60th Diamond (Star Ruby)
65th Blue Spinel
70th Sapphire (Smoky Quartz)
I know, I know. Tip number THREE, is setting a budget? Most people want to jump right in and start here. But, trust me, this vital step will be so much easier if you’ve already taken the time to prioritize your wedding preferences and talk over money with the involved parties!
Let’s start by taking a look over your list of who is paying for what and figure out what you and your fiancé have to cover. Now draw up a quick list of those things and be realistic about what you think you can spend on each item, keeping in mind the priorities you’ve set! If you really can’t face setting it all down on paper from scratch, here are two budget planners I found through a quick online search:
Here is one which is a little “detail” lacking, but a good start. I do like that they’ve given you a column for “anticipated” cash flow, as well as “actual” cash flow. If you use those columns as you go along, you can make slight adjustments here and there, and will hopefully know if you have enough extra to cover any unexpected expenses.
Here’s another drafted budget. This one looks good, but I would highly recommend changing those percentages to better reflect what you decided your priorities would be! You may also want to break down those large categories into smaller, more manageable shopping lists.
I am almost certain there isn’t a bride-to-be out there who hasn’t heard the advice of setting and sticking to a realistic budget. And yet, isn’t it strange how many attempt to ignore that advice? Ignoring your budget not only encourages you to stop hunting for better deals, but it often causes greater financial stress among families, including the one you’re about to start! Having the budget written down and keeping it with the things you are using to plan the wedding will help you visualize the process and help you stick to it!
As I mentioned in my second post, my parents gave me cash to cover our reception costs. This worked out as a great budgeting tool for me, because I could quickly see just how much we spent, and how much we had left, as we went along. I also pulled certain amounts aside for specific, more expensive, things on our shopping list (like my dress and the rings) ahead of time, so that I knew I’d have that money when I needed it.
Pets are part of our family. It’s only natural to think of including them in your ceremony. If you have made the decision to have your fluffy family member there on your special day then I’m sure that your pet will happily agree to fill the role. First, learn whether or not your ceremony location is a pet friendly one. Then, you can decide on their responsibility. Pet friendly roles can include Ring bearer, flower pet, or bride announcer. I’m sure there are others that you can imagine as well. Keep in mind that you’ll need a leash and a caring friend or family member to make sure you fuzzy (or scaly!) loved one stays their calmest and gets where they need to go! I’ve found a few items to help spice up their apparel and help them look their best on this extraordinary occasion!
Happy Blooms Flower Dog Collar by Pecan Puppies
Rustic Chic Weddings Old Barn Wood Hand Painted Here Comes The Bride Sign For Dog Pet Photo Prop by bragginbags
Dog Bow Tie and Neck Tie Double Shirt Collar Set Blue Checkered and White Reversible by furkidscloset
This month’s WedEclectic giveaway is hosted by:
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To embellish your hats or hair…
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