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Keep Calm and Carry On – An Act from God

By KittyKanzashi

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So your big day is coming!  Your venue is booked, the tables are set, your guests are all ready to party and most important of all, you are happy because everything is going according to plan!

Nothing can go wrong………………….oh hold on this is a “Keep Calm and Carry On” article, something has to go wrong so what is it this time?

The weather!

Love it or hate it, it is always there waiting to make or break your day and this is especially true for your big day since dark and brooding rain clouds are not a good sign for a outdoor wedding.

Stormy skies - overall

Unless you are planning on a Halloween themed wedding then a mild thunderstorm might actually add atmosphere to your spooky proceedings.

So what happens if the weather becomes your enemy?

What if you experience a freak thunderstorm in the middle of what is suppose to be summer?  Well do not panic!  Most of the time these thunderstorms do not last long and once it is all over, your big day can carry on as planned if a bit delayed.  If it doesn’t stop raining then first point of call would be to contact the person who is performing your marriage rites.  In the end of the day, he or she will be the one who decides if the wedding is going ahead and if they say no, it is still not the end of the world.  Your reception can still go ahead even though you are not married.  Just think of it as a pre-wedding reception!  Although you will want to start rounding up as many umbrellas and wellington boots that you can find for your guests.

Then again, it could be the mother of all thunderstorms!  You know the ones where lives are at stake.  Well if that is the case then quite frankly forget about your wedding and head for safety.

Only when the drama is all over, you should start thinking about sorting out your wedding and I do have a sneaky suspicion that you will get a lot of sympathy from everyone involved.  Just speak to all parties concerned and it is likely that they will help you make your big day come true once again.

But what are the chances of experiencing such bad weather that it could endanger lives.  Highly unlikely I think so don’t worry about that scenario.

Most of the time the weather will be fine.  Just think about all the wedding you have ever been to or heard about and did one of those get ruined by bad weather?  I bet all of them turned out just fine.

So the moral of the story today is weather is highly unlikely to ruin your day but if it does then keep calm and make the best of a bad situation.

Isla Wong
(aka Kitty Kanzashi)

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Keep Calm and Carry On – Guest List Dilemma

By KittyKanzashi

So before deciding on your venue you have to decide on the number of guests you would like to be present at your wedding.  This can not possibly cause any trouble whatsoever…….. or can it?

Maybe your family have grand ideas!  Or maybe it is you who wants the big wedding whereas your other half is just happy with just a handful of friends.  Then there is of course who to invite but that will be another topic of discussion.  In this post we will concentrate on just the numbers.

What do you do?  Clearly you have to decide on one or the other because your venue choice is depended on the guest list.  Now as much as I enjoy a good argument I think in this case it might not be suitable.  There are a number of factors you could consider.


Of course the most easiest way to decide on guest numbers is with your budget.  The more guests you want the more money you will need to spend.  It is really that simply.

Time Spent on a Guest

This may sound a bit silly but you have to consider how much time you would like to spend with each guest because the more guest you have the less time you will have with each one.  I have heard of one couple where their families just invited every living relative and friend they knew to the wedding and the couple spent the whole wedding day just posing for photographs which annoyed the bride so much, she actually stormed off.  They consequently planned a second wedding party to make up for the first one.


Generally the smaller the wedding the more intimate it is which is great if all of your guests get along with each other.  There is nothing more uncomfortable then awkward silence from everybody.  So if your guest list is a bit fractured then maybe inviting a few more people so that everyone has a group where they can belong is a good idea.


Does your family have a tradition whether cultural or social of throwing huge parties?  I had this little problem when I was planning my wedding because I come from a culture where you pretty much invited every single living relative no matter how distance they are.  This to me sounded like hell on Earth because all I will be doing on my wedding day is talking to relatives which I have not seen for over 20 years.

Potential Location

Maybe you have an idea of where you would like to have your wedding which could put a constraint on the number of guests.  For example, maybe you would like to get married in a quaint little village but this place could have a finite number of guests accommodations available in so many miles radius.  I think it would be a little rude to leave your guest without a roof over their head.  Sure it is their responsibility to book the room but it would be nice to give them some choice.

I think those are the ones that I could come up with off the top of my head.  By all means you can have a panic when you are discussing these factors but in the end of the day “Keep Calm”.  Nothing will be achieved if you are constantly panicking especially at this stage of planning.  There is a whole load more to discuss!

Isla Wong
(aka Kitty Kanzashi)

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Wedding Headdress of the world

By  Isla Wong
(aka Kitty Kanzashi)

We often think veils as being the wedding headdress worn by the brides but it made me wonder, what do other countries and cultures (past and present) wear for their weddings?

Hindu Wedding – Mang Tikka

The mang tikka is the piece of jewellery that hangs on the forehead of a hindu bride.  I can imagine some of these mang tikka can get very heavy but what a way to wear something as pretty as a mang tikka.

Vietnam – Khan Dong

Khan Dong is a coil of very stiff brocade fabric that is worn by the bride.  It is worn just like a crown with your hairstyle poking through the middle so perfect for brides who are planning to wear a fancy hairbun.  If you feel the men are left out, don’t worry, there is a version for them as well but it is not as big and fancy as the brides.

Japan – Wataboshi 

The wataboshi can be a hood or a strip of white cloth which is supposed to hide the “horns of jealousy” until the couple is married.  What these horns can be, I do not know but like the veil, it is very simple and chic.

Korean – Jokduri/Hwagwan (more elaborate jokduri) below is an example

Korean brides if they are wearing a traditional hanbok wedding dress will wear a Jokduri or Hwagwan.  This is a crown that sits at the front of the head, I think the crown is held on by strings that are tied at the base of the head.

From what I have read the jokduri and hwagwan are very similar in shape except the hwagwan is decorated more heavily like the picture below.

Russian – Kokoshnik 

This is something from the past and I wish it came back in wedding fashion.  This headdress was once worn part of everywear for Russian women and of course weddings as well.

Tradition states that if you were a girl or unmarried lady you would wear one showing off your hair but once you were married, you would then wear a veil with it.

Chinese – Crown

I remember my mother telling me that when my great grandmother got married she wore a bridal crown but of course we don’t have any pictures of this and it was a long time ago.

Nowadays, most Chinese brides will only wear these at wedding photoshoots rather then at their actual weddings.  However there has been a hanfu movement and some couples are wearing them for their wedding.

African – Gele

This one I would love to try my hands on because I am fascinated by how the fabric seems to defy gravity!  And it is not just the bride who wears ones, this headdress is worn by all females and I think the rule is the bigger the better.

Every lady has their own way of styling their gele and if you hop onto YouTube, there are a lot of videos on how to tie a gele.

Do you have any other wedding headdress you would like to share with us?

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Wedding Gifts

By Isla Wong (aka Kitty Kanzashi)

Wedding Gifts

In the ye old days, it was customary for wealthy brides to receive a trousseau on her wedding.  This contained all the clothes that the lady will need for her married life.

Then as the years rolled on this turned into household items which the couple need to set up home.

However nowadays many of us already have all the things we need therefore what should you ask your guest to give?

Honeymoon fund

Whether you are asking them to contribute to a specific element like the hotel or just a general pot of money this is a nice idea because it will give the guest a chance to contribute to a gift that will be enjoyed and provided many happy memories.

Charity donation

There is nothing like spreading your joy with other people so why not help others who are in need.  In these current economic time, charities are the hardest hit due to the lack of funding from governments so they need private donations more then ever.

Deposit for Future Home

We all wish the happy couple the best for the future and what could be better then giving them a hand in getting their first house!  With rising house prices (especially in the UK), it is getting harder and harder for first time buyer to build up the deposit that is necessary to secure a mortgage on a house so with the help of family and friends you could make their future a little bit easier.


This is the route I took and this caused a raised eyebrow from my mother in law since asking for money as a wedding gift is often considered vulgar.  However, it is traditional in many eastern cultures for money to be presented as a wedding gifts and since I am Chinese this seemed perfectly natural to me.  Now each culture has there own way of presenting the money to the couple, for the Chinese, it is presented in red envelope, just like the one above but it can also be included in the congratulation card as well.

Do you have any other ideas which might be an alternative to the traditional wedding list?  If you do then let us know in the comments!