Monthly Archives: September 2010
>Sadly, many brides are without their fathers on their wedding day, and have to figure out an alternative for walking down the aisle. A local Atlanta radio morning show (www.thebertshow.com) discussed the history of this tradition and what happens when “Dad” isn’t available.
The tradition of a bride being walked down the aisle and given to her future husband is based in the old property laws. A father owns his daughter until he gives his property to another man. It is hard for me to imagine that in practice today, but it is certain we are keeping it alive during our special day. I do like some of the older traditions. I think this one shows respect and love to our fathers. I only wish that I had given love and respect to my mother in some way during our ceremony.
This radio bit made me think about my wedding and how lucky I was that my Dad is actively involved in my life. Some fathers have passed away, some fathers are too far away physically or mentally, and maybe worst of all, some fathers never existed beyond donating sperm. The brides without dads are left wondering what to do in this situation. Does a grandfather or uncle step in, a brother or best friend, or do they walk down alone? A tough choice. One that might hurt feelings. I love the contemporary idea of the mom walking a bride down the aisle. To me that seems like the best alternative to a missing dad.
I would like to recommend to future brides to be at peace with your choice and consider asking mom to walk you down the aisle. If you are reading this and are lucky like me, consider asking both of your parents to walk with you. What a gift of love.
On a personal note when asked who gives this bride my dad said “her mother and I will share her”. I get tears in my eyes just thinking about how special that moment was. If you love this too, ask your family to start a new more equal and updated tradition.
Prepare preliminary Guest list
Band/DJ – CH and Reception
Select & Ask Bridal Party
Gather requirements for religious ceremony (baptismal certificates, divorce decrees, etc)
Register for Precana classes
Apply for passports and all travel necessities: visas, vaccines, etc
Block off hotel rooms for Out of town Guests
Prepare STD guestlist
Send out STDs
Select stores, make list, & register
Book wedding day transportation (limos)
Shop for and order Bride’s Gown
Shop for and order Bridesmaids Gowns
Shop for and order Flowergirl(s) Dress(es)
MOB & MOG order gowns
Select and order Invitations
Shop for and order wedding rings
Plan ceremony: writing vows, music selections, readings, kebutah, etc
Plan back up locations for ceremony, photo sessions in case of rain
Shop for, order/make favors
Purchase Bridal Party gifts, parents gifts
Purchase tiara/headpiece and veil(s)
Purchase Bride’s shoes, undergarments, stockings, garters, and jewelry
Purchase Guestbook for reception
Plan reception: first dance song selection, parent dances, place cards, place card holders , cake topper, seating arrangements, etc
Select and order wedding cake
Schedule ceremony rehearsal
Book rehearsal dinner site and send out invites
Prepare OOT welcome baskets
Must-Take photo list
Do not play/must play lists for DJ/Band
Schedule Hair & Makeup trials
Sit for Engagement Photos
Purchase or make ceremony programs
Schedule day of hair, makeup, and nail appts for Bride and BMs
Host BM luncheon
Mail out invitations
Finalize menus, song selections, timelines, and all details with all vendors
Attend gown fittings
Break in wedding day shoes
Make sure you have something old, new, blue, etc
Call guests who have not RSVP’d
Obtain Marriage License
Shop & pack for Honeymoon
Attend shower and bachelor(ette) parties
Set aside time to write thank you notes for shower gifts
Prepare Day-of Timeline and give a copy to each vendor along with copies of must-take photo lists, etc
Send out wedding announcements to local paper
Confirm all final payments, schedule, pick up times, head count, etc with all vendors
Confirm HM reservations and travel arrangements
Create a “wedding box” to gather your ceremony accessories (marriage license,
candles, ring pillow, basket, guest book) and assign someone to transport.
Prepare a “reception box” for accessories such as guest books, cameras, toasting
goblets, cake toppers, etc., and assign someone to transport
Prepare day-of emergency kit
Prepare any speeches or toasts
Place tips for each vendor in envelopes
This super sparkling glitter and gold encrusted cake topper is from Etsy’s own ScatteredStardust. Don’tcha know she’s from Minnesota. The cool weather is obviously making her work indoors more. These letters take her more than 10 hours each to complete. Amazing. A total steal at $50.00. I know, I know the whole peacock thing is starting to play out a bit…but I love this piece so much I just don’t care. I think that any jewel toned wedding would be complimented. I can so see taking this home after all of the pomp and circumstance is over and framing it in a shadow box along with a photo of the wedding cake.
>Completely original. What an amazing concept. These could very well replace a bouquet.
|Photo courtesy of midnightboudoir
Glenda of midnightboudoir was our treasury challenge winner for our first round.
She has chosen an art nouveau/art deco theme. The treasury must be submitted no later than 10-21-10 and a link to it must be posted to our team google groups account to qualify.
Our next treasury challenge winner will be highlighted on our blog and get to choose the next theme.
Etsy.com has spawned a new generation of consumers. Our offbeat clients not only want original but they demand it. A great fellow blogger Ariel created offbeatbride.com. We were originally inspired by her dedication to promoting the different alternatives to standard weddings. (We do not have any affiliation with offbeatbride.com) Our team members provide the actual products and services that an original wedding requires.