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Hiring a Photographer for your Destination Wedding

By LaCocoRouge


You are getting married…where?  Whether it’s a tropical island, another continent or merely another state you are travelling either by plane, train or automobile.  So what does this mean for your photographer?


If you are travelling outside of the country you could hire someone local who you get to meet in person or someone at your destination who already knows the locations.  Both seem appealing right?


There are significant advantages and disadvantages to both so it’s up to you to decide what is going to be more important.


If hiring someone local you have the opportunity to build a deeper relationship with them which can make a difference for those intimate moments which will be frozen on paper for life.  Travel, lodging and meals plus tips will certainly be an added expense as well as transportation and any other incidentals that should crop up that are wedding related.   It may be easier to come up with a per diem if the meals aren’t part of the venue package deal.  For everything else they are on their own (such as tours, etc.)


You will want to consider flying your photographer to the site a few days early to allow for any time changes, to get settled and to scout out locations other than the venue.  Does your photographer have experience travelling to destination shoots?  Are they comfortable travelling with their equipments and know the ins and outs of what to do should something happen to their equipment?  Do they have backup equipment travelling separately or on board?


Sit down and have a list of your questions ready.  Your photographer should already have a written estimate of everything that needs to be covered and what those fees will be written into an agreement.  Make sure your needs and those of the photographer are clearly defined to prevent any surprises down the road.


Don’t be afraid to negotiate.  If you never ask – you will never know.  Sometimes the answer will benefit you!  Some photographers will also work a destination wedding for the expenses only depending on the location.  If it’s a place that’s difficult to reach or unlikely they will ever travel to, then they may be open to some creative thinking on your part!


Stephanie Farley

La Coco Rouge, LLC

Owner – Designer – Performer



Hiring a Photographer for Your Wedding

By LaCocoRouge 


So you are busy planning a wedding – maybe you have help or maybe you are doing it all on your own.  Flowers, food, dress, bridesmaids, family, invitations, photographer…


Every single moment of your wedding is important but then you think about the photographer.  The person you will hire to immortalize your wedding day forever.  Yes forever.


There are a few things you should think about before settling on that one person.  Maybe you have a friend who takes lovely photos and is wiling to do it as a gift.  Consider this carefully – not to disregard your friend but seriously.  Think about this.  You are not going on a picnic, or visiting Disneyworld or even having a birthday dinner and your friend is invited along and is taking photos.


This is a monumental event which covers not only the day itself but perhaps the events the day before such as the rehearsal, dinner, etc.


Depending on the skill and professionalism of your friend this may be a great idea.  So here are a few things to think about regarding hiring a photographer.


When hiring a professional you are paying for certain absolute truths.  First look at their portfolio.  Typically this will be their website.  Do you like their style?


Have a conversation with them.  Set up a meeting in person.  Do you like them?  Do they dress professionally?  Does your personality match up with theirs?  Remember – you will be in intimate situations with them.  Are you comfortable doing this?


Discuss terms of pricing and what is included, timeline to receive your proofs and then, after your photos are picked, when you will receive them, how many copies, and in what formats (black/white, colour, or both).  Do they keep the files and for how long?  What if something happens to your album five years from now and you need new photos?  Sign an agreement/contract.


Go for quality with the photos and don’t worry so much about the album itself.  That could be a great DIY project you can do later if budget is a concern.


Remember – your friend has a life.  Your professional photographer does this daily for a living.


What happens when Uncle Joe crashes into them at the wedding and the camera lens is damaged by the champagne glass?  Do they carry extra lenses with them, more than one camera?  What is their backup plan?  Do they have insurance?  What is your responsibility in this situation if they do not?  What if they get sick?  Injured right before the wedding?


These are a few thoughts to get you started in your search.   Next time we will discuss destination weddings and your photographer.


Stephanie Farley

La Coco Rouge, LLC

Owner – Designer – Performer


 By LaCoCoRouge

You’ve heard of vision boards and style boards but have you heard of Pinterest?

Putting together your wedding is a big deal and involves planning from décor, to apparel to food, entertainment and beyond.

Lists are one way to keep ideas and thoughts together but sometimes it can be difficult to explain to your wedding stylist or friends what it is you really envision.

Pinterest is an online image gallery similar to Tumblr but with the added advantage of having multiple boards laid out with images and blends Twitter type #hashtags to make items easier to find.

Imagine putting together a board for a wedding dress, colours you want to use, bridesmaid’s gifts, décor, food, hairstyles, makeup and more.

Gone is the frustration of telling your hairstylist that you want your hair to swoop down in a single curl with two braids when you can simply show him/her a collection of images from your board.

All those magazines littering the floor with paper scraps and quite possibly paper cuts (if you were me) are a memory as you gather images from the web and add them to your categories.

What is a Fascinator or Fascinator Hat?

By La Coco Rouge 

Now that Kate Middleton has taken the world by storm with her fabulous styled hats, I am asked less often “what is a fascinator?”

Fascinators and fascinator hats are setting a new trend for fashion on this side of the Atlantic Ocean.  Europeans have always had a special love for these dainty and bold headpieces and it looks as though the US is falling in line.

Mata Hari’s Daughter

There used to be a discernible difference between the term “cocktail hat” and “fascinator” but like all true melting pots the terms are merging to become one.  I rarely hear the term cocktail hat anymore and wonder if the term may be falling into disuse due to its upstart and trendy “new” cousin.

Today a fascinator and fascinator hat is attached to the hair via combs, pins, clips, headband or elastic.  If it requires fastening to stay on the head – chances are good it’s a fascinator.  If it has a brim or sidewalls it’s a hat.


Most fascinators and fascinator hats, not all, will start with a base of some kind and then other materials are added such as feathers, flowers, pearls, sequins, ribbons, brooches, etc.

It used to be that these were worn for formal occasions but today you can see them sold in stores as daily accessory wear.

These hairpiece accessories can be used to complement a fancy hairstyle or to dress up a simple and casual look.  Note that the more elaborate the headpiece the more attention will be focused on it so style light on the rest of the outfit and use accent pieces sparingly.


The flapper generation spawned a delicious flurry of headpieces and hair wear.  Their short hair styles and simply cut dress fashions encouraged elaborate hair accessories.

Visit the team member shops of WedEclectic to find your own beauty for your upcoming wedding…or just for fun!

The Corsetry Tales – V. 3

 The Corsetry Tales – V. 3 by La Coco Rouge

Breaking in Your Corset

Once you’ve purchased a high quality corset you’ll want to take some time to break it in before your wedding day.  Breaking in the corset will allow it to mold to your unique body shape and ease the comfort factor of wearing it all day.

How to do this?  It’s super-simple.  In fact, it’s like preparing to hike Macchu Picchu or easing into new shoes.

**NOTE: Have a thin article of clothing between you and the garment such as a chemise, tank, etc.  This will help keep your corset clean by wicking sweat from the body as well as preventing chafing of the skin.

Begin by wearing your corset a couple of times before the big day for a couple of hours each time.  Three is always a magic number so if you have time, try to do this on three separate occasions.

After properly lacing yourself into the corset, keep the laces pulled snug, but not too tight.  Over the next couple of hours (2-3), you’ll want to pull the laces tighter every 30 minutes or so.  At the end of your session you will have pulled the laces as tight as they can go while still being able to breathe freely and easily.

When you are ready to remove the corset, first unlace, and then unhook the front.

Leave the corset out for a couple hours to ensure it’s dry (not damp from sweat or rain – rain can happen!) before storing.

This process is highly recommended to extend the life of your garment.  High quality corsets are not inexpensive so you’ll want to treat them like the handcrafted treasures they are.

Breaking in your corset will allow the fabrics to stretch slowly without putting undue pressure on the grommets, stays, stitching and laces as well as molding carefully to your body for a comfortable fit for an extended period of time.

>Who Says You Need a Diamond Engagement Ring?

>Perhaps the most enduring tradition of the modern bride today is the ring.  In particular the diamond ring and in recent years coloured diamond rings for those with an extensive budget.  Remember J lo’s super fabulous fancy pink ring designed by Harry Winston?  Yum J  But really…who says you need a diamond ring or even a ring at all?

The tradition of the engagement ring is a relatively recent phenomenon within the past 500 years.  It is popularly held that its origins began with the presentation of a diamond ring from Archduke Maximilian of Hamburg to Mary of Burgundy in 1477.  Google it and you will find a wealth of info.  

Since then through 500 years of famous marriages, marketing (thanks DeBeers) and the tweaking of the romantic notion – today’s bride normally wouldn’t think twice about a diamond ring being part of the marriage ceremony.  It’s romantic, there’s always a story to be told about the presentation of the ring and the ring itself is a symbol of commitment that you belong to each other.
Okay – but what about those of us who choose NOT to have a diamond ring…or even a ring at all?  What other choices remain?  
Julie Stout & Doug Matthews of Austin, TX chose to go with a painting for their engagement.  Being avid art collectors and less purveyors of the jewelry domain – they chose to seal their promise to each other with a work of art that sings of joy and passion.  At their wedding, the painting was displayed at the front door for each guest to see upon arrival.  Today it hangs proudly in their home for all to see and they each wear simple matching white gold wedding bands.

Jennifer & Helme Calfee of Atlanta, GA went with a blue sapphire engagement ring (fyi – sapphires come in all the colours of the rainbow except for red. When red, they are referred to as rubies).  Jennifer loved the tradition of having a ring but has no liking for diamonds.  Her passions, next to her husband and step-daughter, are the colour blue and sapphires for they represent strength and protection.  

As for myself…I neither require a diamond ring or even a ring at all.  For me, something I have to wear everyday would drive me crazy;  however, something to wear on occasion might be nice.  My fantasy dream piece of jewelry?  Padparascha sapphire ring.  I have a refined yet eclectic taste.

So what other ring options are there?  Check out these funky options from these Offbeat Etsy Wedding Sellers – whether it’s for that special day, everyday, or special occasions there’s a ring sure to delight your offbeat senses!

And remember  – it takes all kinds to make an offbeat bride whether it’s your ring, the colour of your dress , the theme of the celebration, etc.  Go be your funky self and dance outside the traditions to make your own!
We would love to hear from you regarding your choice, or not, with a ring.  If you have a story to tell, please share it with us and other prospective brides!