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We ask the WedEclectic team a question, and post their answers each week…providing some advice, inspiration and insight into the person behind our shops. We hope you enjoy them!

Please reply with your own answer!  : )

Do you prefer a large wedding reception (all of your families and friends) or an intimate celebration (the two of you or a very small group..20 or less?) And why?

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Edi from MemoriesForLife

For the wedding, a small family only ceremony. But for the reception, a big get together with all our families and friends!
I’d like the wedding small because I don’t want a big fuss made over the ceremony…short & sweet 🙂 But I want the party to last all night. A way to thank everyone for being there for us through the years.

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Julie from OddLotEmporium

Small, definitely small. I just want to party with the people closest to me, no need to invite everyone I have ever met LOL

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Jennifer from ClayBouquetShop

I’m glad we had our friends and family there…less than 100 people. But part of me really wanted a small intimate wedding with just the two of us and a few people. 🙂

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Kitty from KittyKanzashi

Depending on your definition of small and intimate…..I had 65 guests at my wedding and in my parents’ eyes that was small and intimate since they are use to weddings with 150 guest as a minimum.

Personally I was happy with my number as I got to talk to everyone and it was nice and relaxed

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Tonya from DaintyJewelryByTonya

I enjoyed having all our family and friends at our wedding ceremony. But of course we could not afford to feed everyone at the reception. We limited the reception invites to 200 folks that were closest to us. We had both friends and family that traveled long distance to attend our wedding, so we made sure they were included in the reception plans.

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Dalynda from SteampunkWedding

We had about 150 people, but I don’t feel like I was able to really talk to each person very well. My groom had lots of cousins; I felt inadequately prepared.

Smaller would have been better, but we’d need more than 20, maybe more like 50 people?

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Ella from EllaWinston

My husband and I wanted to celebrate with our closest family and friends. We ended up around 100 guests and the size was perfect. I just wish we had about 5 more hours to social with everyone. I swear the night just flew by!

WedEclectic Q&A

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We ask the WedEclectic team a question, and post their answers each week…providing some advice, inspiration and insight into the person behind our shops. We hope you enjoy them!

Please reply with your own answer!  : )

What would be your ideal honeymoon destination if money weren’t an issue?

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Edi from MemoriesForLife

Australia! I’d love to go see all the animals in their natural habitat running in the wild!

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Julie from OddLotEmporium

I want to go to that lil vacation spot in Belize where the huts are over the ocean and you can see the ocean through the floor. The water is clear and you can see for miles.

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Joanne from HappyMooseGardenArt

Julie’s answer is hard to beat! New Zealand sounds nice too :o)

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Jennifer from ClayBouquetShop

Oh, Australia, New Zealand and Fiji…three ideal destinations all in one grand honeymoon vacation…and only one long flight from the US East coast : )

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Steve from JewelryBySteveRiley

I would love to take a trip around the seven wonders of the world, & then see my family in the UK.

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Kitty from KittyKanzashi

Japan of course and most of the money would be spent on clothes.

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Dalynda from SteampunkWedding

Celtic Castle! Ireland, Scotland, England, Wales, okay, even a castle in France would be okay. History! Gardens! Perfection!

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Ella from EllaWinston

Road trip! My husband and I actually considered buying an RV and spending 2-3 months traveling around the US for our honeymoon. It’s still on our bucket list….one day 🙂

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We ask the WedEclectic team a question, and post their answers each week…providing some advice, inspiration and insight into the person behind our shops. We hope you enjoy them!

Please reply with your own answer!  : )

Guestbook ~ Did you have a traditional guestbook? If not, what did you do different?

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Dalynda from SteampunkWedding

Yes! I love the tradition of a guest book. Looking back 21 years ago, I can’t remember which aunts were there, so I can look. We’ve lost many family members since then and it is wonderful to have their signatures as part of our ceremony forever. My daughter and I were looking at the book last month and took the time to tell her about so many of the great-grandparents that she doesn’t remember.

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Jennifer from ClayBouquetShop

Instead of having a book everyone had to find to sign, we included paper on each table, cut in sizes to fit into envelopes I glued into a nice scrapbook. We got notes from our guests, some good wishes, some funny stories, and some advice. It makes me smile whenever I take them out and read them. : )

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Amanda from ArtisanMaskers

I had a traditional style guest book which I added photos to (from our engagement pictures) in order to liven it up a bit. I also used portions in the back of it to keep notes about my bridal showers (who came, what gifts we received, etc.) so now I can look back and find it all in one place!

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Kitty from KittyKanzashi

Nope, my partner and I couldn’t be bothered with one because we only had 65 guests so it would have been a very empty guestbook and it was my intention on the day to talk to all of the guests.

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Kristin from BagSecrets

We had craft paper in our wedding colors that I cut up into 3×5 cards. People then wrote us little messages on them and left them in a beautiful crystal bowl. After the wedding I took the cards, matched them up with photos from those people at the wedding and made a little scrapbook. I love looking through it and see the photos with their messages!

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We ask the WedEclectic team a question, and post their answers each week…providing some advice, inspiration and insight into the person behind our shops. We hope you enjoy them!

Please reply with your own answer!  : )

Theme Weddings ~ If you could choose any theme for your wedding what would it be and why. If you are already married, did you have a theme wedding? If you could do it all over again would you change the theme?

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Keri from DelaneyPhotoJewelry

I did not have a theme at my wedding, but if I could do it again, I would love to have a roaring 20″s wedding them with vintage photo props & centerpieces. I would love an old saloon photo shoot with the bridal party. And if the reception could take place in that same environment, piano player and all, it would be the icing on the cake.

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Dalynda from SteampunkWedding

Of course we here at Steampunk Weddings LOVE theme weddings! I highly recommend them! More and more people are doing this! It lightens the mood and contributes to a more enjoyable celebration. I saw a Harry Potter themed wedding set in a forest chapel. It was gorgeous & magical things happened all evening!

I’ve always been partial to Victorian style, yet lots of our friends and family in Oklahoma favor the Wild Wild West genre. Steampunk would have worked well for us. However, ‘way back then’ we went with Victorian Garden party theme. It was lovely, but not eclectic enough for me!

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Kitty from KittyKanzashi

I did not have a themed wedding because I think that would have upset my parents but if I had a choice then it would either be Victorian OR Japanese.

Victorian because I love the fashion of that period. Big dresses, elaborate hairstyles and high tea for reception what is there not to love. As for Japanese, well that is my other love in fashion and it would have been lovely to see the whole wedding party in colourful kimono. When my friend got married, she got married in a gorgeous kimono and asked her friends to wear kimono as well. We really brightened up the wedding photos.

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Jennifer from ClayBouquetShop

We went with an Autumnal theme to bring in the colors of the season.

Red and orange bouquets/bouts were carried/worn, and the accent color for the gowns and tuxes and chair sashes were Apple (David’s Bridal/Mens Wearhouse.) Centerpieces were made from orange Chinese lanterns and deep red berries and velvet maple leaves I purchased at Michael’s stores. (I cleaned out the 4 stores around us to make them.) I made our invites and placecards out of burgundy and ivory lotka paper with accent leaves, and the chocolate wedding cake was accented by the autumnal colors. Cocktail tables had candle holders with japanese maple leaves from our yard, and I even dried leaves from a few yards the prior year for the ceremony aisle. And the reception hall provided many accents of leaves, berries and flowers in similar autumn colors for the fireplace and windows in the room to add to everything we did ourselves. : )

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Amanda from ArtisanMaskers

I would love to have done a masquerade-themed wedding (obviously), but because of the extra time and cost involved in doing it “right,” I don’t regret not doing it. Would’ve been a blast, though!

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Kristin from BagSecrets

We got married at the Cliff House in San Francisco which is a historic landmark. So naturally we went with a historic San Francisco theme. We had old photos of different landmarks around the city put them into gold vintage frames and used those as our table names. Our last song was “I left my heart in San Francisco” which naturally got everyone on the dance floor. I loved our theme and I wouldn’t change a thing!

WedEclectic Q&A

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We ask the WedEclectic team a question, and post their answers each week…providing some advice, inspiration and insight into the person behind our shops. We hope you enjoy them!

Please reply with your own answer!  : )

Grand exit ~ Did you opt to make a grand exit at your wedding? If so what did you do?

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Jennifer from ClayBouquetShop

I wanted to leave a bit early when planning our wedding, but we opted to help pack up everything that night (still in our gown and tux) so we didn’t have to come back in the morning. It was a very DIY wedding, so we had to pack up the centerpieces’ vases, stones and silks, the chair cover and sashes, and the many other décor pieces around the rooms.

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Karen from BlingForTheTable

I love the grand exit. 32 years ago we had a post reception party for close family and friends. I hated to leave!!

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Dalynda from SteampunkWedding

My favorite grand exit was when the couple rented a gorgeous old car, a Bentley Mark VI, and drove off to their destination!
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My husband and tried to do a grand exit… My husband is a BIG cyclist & we married in an outdoor wedding in Colorado. So when we were ready to go, he put me on the bike and he peddled us away!

My mom and grandmother rolled their eyes – so go with the Bentley Mark VI instead!

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Kristin from BagSecrets

My husband and I opted for a grand exit. We originally wanted everyone to hold sparklers for us to run under. Unfortunately it didn’t happen as the sparklers were hard to light, plus we got married on the coast and it’s typically windy there. Luckily we tested them first! Instead we had a large paper banner made that said “Just Married” and our wedding date. We had a few people hold it up and everyone lined up on both sides. We then charged down the “aisle” high fiving everyone along the way and then tore through the banner like a football game. Kinda cheesy, I know, but it was fun and different. 🙂

WedEclectic Q&A

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We ask the WedEclectic team a question, and post their answers each week…providing some advice, inspiration and insight into the person behind our shops. We hope you enjoy them!

Please reply with your own answer!  : )

Save the date cards ~ are they necessary? Did you opt to send them out?

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Jennifer from ClayBouquetShop

I think it helps family and friends in terms of scheduling time off of work, especially if they are sent far in advance. (Ours were sent out a full year ahead of time.)
It can also be a great way to announce your website (for RSVPs, date, venue, menu options, hotels, area information, etc.).
And since they are sent out early, they don’t have to match your invites. : ) I created ours on Vistaprint for fairly cheap, so it was well worth it. : )

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Karen from BlingForTheTable

I love the idea of receiving Save The Date cards. In a time where we are so busy it helps to give people a heads up on the upcoming wedding. It also provides the bride to be the opportunity to introduce herself and her fiance with a special photo. I guess if my budget was tight I might forgo but I personally love to receive them.

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Dalynda from SteampunkWedding

I ❤ Save the Dates!

Even if the notice isn’t a formal card or mailing, a simple email really helps!
Our calendar includes several weddings this summer in at least three different states!

Many friends and families are really busy in the summer months, especially, so giving as much notice as possible is preferred. We’ve received ‘Save the Date’ cards, emails – one even included a YouTube link with pictures of the couple with a favorite song!

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Kristin from BagSecrets

Save the date cards are not only fun to receive but I think they are necessary these days with our other responsibilities and commitments. I am so glad that my husband and I decided to send them out nearly 6 months in advance as we had several guests mention they already had trips planned but decided to reschedule so they could attend our wedding! As Dalynda mentioned above there are a few ways to send out Save the Dates for free, they don’t need to expensive. I too have received a Save the Date by email with a photo of the couple which actually linked back to their wedding website where you could even RSVP for their wedding!

Steampunk Wedding: Victorian with Vintage Science & Science-fiction

By SteampunkWedding

New brides across the globe are embracing the feminine lace and long gloves from an era in our past when craftsmanship was king.  Fine linens, leather, copper and other metals meant our accoutrements would last a life-time.  As you plan your wedding you hope your photos, vows and memories will last a life-time as well.  So, step away from plastics and disposables of the 21st century and back to the future that never was, Steampunk!

What is steampunk? It is a popular culture with roots in time-travel science fiction.  Lots of ink has been spilled trying to define this growing trend; a google search will bring up new retail data from IBM [insert link] which has been echoed online in Forbes and Time publications.  However, a better piece written by author James Blaylock is in Huffington Post. [insert link].

Why is this wonderful? Steampunks choose the best parts of industrialization and/or Victorian fashion.  Multiculturalism and creativity are fully realized for the first time in the re-write of the 1800’s.  This energy can be harnessed in wedding plans!

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For the Bride ~

This growing wedding trend is a wonderful way to weave the natural world into your ceremony.  Be creative!  For example, feathers make your day natural, timeless, and gorgeous!

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Unique and up-cycled are the best way to begin your new lives together.  Look to your favorite literature or film for inspiration.  This heart-shaped necklace is reminiscent of Metropolis, Iron Giant, or even 20,000 Leagues Under the Sea.

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While planning your steampunk wedding, remember, the ‘punk’ is best part! Especially for your wedding day!  Ergo don’t be afraid to let your personal spirit shine!  Shakespeare and your new mother-in-law will approve of these roses!

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Corsets are worn on the outside of your clothing in steampunk!  Rustic fabrics in dark colors will accentuate and cinch your waist! Corsets are designed and created in many materials including tapestry or leather.  Don’t be afraid!  They are actually rather comfortable and can offer great back support!

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For the Groom ~

When you dress up your broom-to-be, is he a bit of a Mad Hatter?  Think Jules Verne!  Does the man of your dreams still have his Grandfathers pocket watch? Or vintage cuff links?  Start with these special items.

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If your groom is a veteran, he may not want to marry in his ‘dress blues’, but you can incorporate their accomplishments and travels with maps and military trimmings.  No camouflage, but dress uniforms are perfect for the steampunk look!

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He may want a hat with goggles – steampunk necessities for many explorers.  Top hats, bowlers, even engineer hats can work.  Again, try to use something from your attic.  Start with his father’s old hat, then get him the rose-colored-glasses he’ll need for his new married life! 😉 Extra magnification never hurts – as seen here.

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Family & friends from times gone by ~

Lastly, embrace your friends and family from days gone by.  An old photograph of possibly your grandparents or great-grandparents’ wedding is the perfect bridal bouquet charm.  This is a great way to include a family member who cannot make the occasion.  This keepsake will live on many years and be cherished by generations to follow.

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Links:

Business News Daily: ‘Steampunk’ Goes Mainstream in 2013

6:30 AM ET   By: Ned Smith, BusinessNewsDaily Senior Writer

Are you ready to get “steampunked”? Retailers attending the National Retail Federation Convention in New York yesterday (Jan. 14) got an ear-load, and eye-load, from researchers about the next big trend steaming toward the retail industry. Based on an analysis of more than half a billion public posts on message boards, blogs, social media sites and news sources, IBM predicted that ”steampunk” will be the next major trend to bubble up and take hold of the retail industry.

http://www.businessnewsdaily.com/3751-steampunk-retail-trend-ibm.html

BizReport.com: IBM predicts birth of a trend – steampunk by Helen Leggatt

Retailers are constantly on the lookout for the ‘next big thing’ and, according to IBM, it’s becoming easier for these trends to be spotted way before markets become saturated thanks to the use of social and sentiment analysis. IBM thinks it knows what the next big trend will be – Steampunk.

http://www.bizreport.com/2013/01/ibm-predicts-birth-of-a-trend—steampunk.html#

[Forbes echoed IBM: http://www.forbes.com/sites/carolpinchefsky/2013/01/15/fashions-biggest-trend-in-2013-2015-as-predicted-by-ibm-steampunk/#more-4316 ]

 

[Time echoed IBM: http://style.time.com/2013/01/17/will-steampunk-really-be-the-next-big-fashion-trend/ ]

 

Huffington Post: On Steampunk Posted: 01/17/2013 8:39 am by James Blaylock

[Review of steampunk literary past from 1985.]

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/james-p-blaylock/on-steampunk_b_2494561.html