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We ask the WedEclectic team a question, and post their answers each week…providing some advice, inspiration and insight into the person behind our shops. We hope you enjoy them!

Please reply with your own answer!  : )

When planning a wedding it’s important to have your partner’s opinion and input. But who Gets the Final Say, Anyway?

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Jennifer from ClayBouquetShop

That’s a tough one.
I think that if someone is contributing financially (the couple and/or parents), respect should be given to their opinions.
If the couple are covering half or all of the costs, final say should go to the couple, but the input needs to be considered.
If the wedding costs are being covered in entirety or in majority by the parents, then they will most likely control the expenditures, so final say would be theirs. But, for instance, if 2 gowns cost the same, the bride should be able to choose between them.

When it comes to DIYing, I think the DIYer gets the final say…as I told my husband, if he wouldn’t help me, and negated the first 3 or more creations without making suggestions or offering to pitch in, he lost his vote on future revisions! LOL (I love him dearly, but oy vey!)

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MsFormaldehyde

We both have input. We both work on things.
I do think because I am more crafty I get the final say since I am doing it.
But, this time around he is more hands on:)

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Keri from DelaneyPhotoJewelry

I think it is very important to ask, but I always have a very convincing sales pitch for my opinion. I think if they feel important enough in the decision making process they may be more likely to give in. The final say really boils down to the topic. But I think the bride should have the final say for most decisions.

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Edi from MemoriesForLife

In my opinion, a wedding, like a marriage should be about compromise. If I get final say on one thing, I would allow my fiancee to have final say on something else. It’s about give and take 🙂

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Ella from EllaWinston

I would have to agree with most that it depends on what we are talking about. If it’s the wedding dress, the bride ALWAYS gets the final say. I would say that anything else should come down to what the bride and groom want for their big day. Of course with taking into consideration the opinions of those assisting financially 🙂

WedEclectic Q&A

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We ask the WedEclectic team a question, and post their answers each week…providing some advice, inspiration and insight into the person behind our shops. We hope you enjoy them!

Please reply with your own answer!  : )

How did you decide who you were going to ask to be in your bridal party?

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Dalynda from SteampunkWedding

As a couple we talked about who we’d lean on the most in our relationship. Who would be there for us, when time get tough? We’d face our new in-law issues, children, etc.

We chose a couple of close friends and our siblings. It was perfect! His sister was on my side and my brother was on his side. Funny how that worked out – when times do get tough – his sister is usually still on my side! 😉

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Jennifer from ClayBouquetShop

It was easy for both of us…my sister and our closest friends. : )

We had a bit of drama when my party was 3 people, and his was 6…I didn’t think it mattered, he did. After trying to get his sister and two other unknowns onto my side, the drama that ensued from his sister made it easier to reduce it to three people each.

Yes, there is always some drama…but you get through it one way or another. : )

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Kitty from KittyKanzashi

I didn’t really have a bridal party as such. I think I just assigned tasks to certain people who I knew could do them. So my parents choose our wedding meal and cake after I have already shortlisted a few things and my mother-in-law made sure the registry office and the hotel where kept up to date.

Then it was just the case of telling my brothers to make sure the wedding guests knew where they should be going on the day.

All a bit uneventful really.

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Kristin from BagSecrets

My husband and I decided we didn’t want a large bridal party. Our wedding was going to be on the smaller side anyway so I thought it would look weird to have a large bridal party with only about 100 guests. I of course asked my sister to be my Maid of Honor and then asked one my best friends to be my Bridesmaid. My other best friend hates being a bridesmaid so instead I asked her to perform the ceremony and marry us! She was a little stressed about it but she did AMAZING 🙂

Wedding Inspiration ~ For a Music Themed Wedding

by Kristin from BagSecrets

This wedding theme is perfect for the couple who wants to celebrate their wedding day through their shared love of music. You can add a vintage twist, or keep it fun and playful!

Place Cards

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Cupcake Holders

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Toasting Flutes

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Invitations

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Wedding Cake Toppers

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Table Centerpieces

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WedEclectic Q&A

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We ask the WedEclectic team a question, and post their answers each week…providing some advice, inspiration and insight into the person behind our shops. We hope you enjoy them!

Please reply with your own answer!  : )

Guestbook ~ Did you have a traditional guestbook? If not, what did you do different?

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Dalynda from SteampunkWedding

Yes! I love the tradition of a guest book. Looking back 21 years ago, I can’t remember which aunts were there, so I can look. We’ve lost many family members since then and it is wonderful to have their signatures as part of our ceremony forever. My daughter and I were looking at the book last month and took the time to tell her about so many of the great-grandparents that she doesn’t remember.

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Jennifer from ClayBouquetShop

Instead of having a book everyone had to find to sign, we included paper on each table, cut in sizes to fit into envelopes I glued into a nice scrapbook. We got notes from our guests, some good wishes, some funny stories, and some advice. It makes me smile whenever I take them out and read them. : )

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Amanda from ArtisanMaskers

I had a traditional style guest book which I added photos to (from our engagement pictures) in order to liven it up a bit. I also used portions in the back of it to keep notes about my bridal showers (who came, what gifts we received, etc.) so now I can look back and find it all in one place!

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Kitty from KittyKanzashi

Nope, my partner and I couldn’t be bothered with one because we only had 65 guests so it would have been a very empty guestbook and it was my intention on the day to talk to all of the guests.

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Kristin from BagSecrets

My husband and I had a guestbook, although it was not a traditional one. We used colored paper in our wedding colors (purple and gold) and cut them up into about 3×5 size cards. We had a table where people could choose their pen color, write us a message and then leave it in this beautiful crystal bowl. After the wedding we took the cards with all our special messages and put them into a scrapbook. I found photos from each of our guests at the wedding who wrote us a message and put it next to their card. I loved the way it turned out! It’s so much fun for us to look back and read the messages while also enjoying some wedding photos!

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We ask the WedEclectic team a question, and post their answers each week…providing some advice, inspiration and insight into the person behind our shops. We hope you enjoy them!

Please reply with your own answer!  : )

Did you have any special ways to include family members who traveled long distances to attend, so that they could feel more part of the wedding?

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Dalynda Marie from SteampunkWedding

My bridesmaids were all friends & now living in different states. We were all so excited to see each other again, we wound up eating almost all of our meals together. Even a late-night trip to Denny’s is vivid in my memory 21 years later!

Luckily we had enough money budgeted to pay for all our families’ accommodations, in fact the hotel put all the rooms near each other so cousins and grandparents could see each other more. They all seemed to have a great time! Our wedding was outdoors in a gorgeous botanical garden. After the ceremony friends and family could stroll and catch up!

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Kitty Kanzashi from KittyKanzashi

I had a couple of friends who drove 2 hours to my wedding on a weekday which I felt very honoured! It was great seeing them and I spent most of the time talking to them because I wanted them to know that I appreciate their efforts. If they stayed the night, I would have taken them out to dinner but alas they had to get home for work the following day.

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Carrie and Stephanie from CarolinesBoutique

It’s been a while since I got married, but for my daughters wedding we invited all of our out of town relatives to the rehearsal dinner. That way we could catch up and let them know we were so glad them could come.

My mother in law held a brunch, the day after the wedding, for all the family members who were still in town. I think everyone really enjoyed getting together and talking about the fun we all had!

Jennifer Ferencz-Barato avatar  Jennifer Ferencz-Barato from ClayBouquetShop 

We needed lots of help setting up the rooms for the ceremony and reception, so many (20+) of our friends and immediate family came to the venue Friday afternoon. After some drama (there is always a little bit of drama), we finally got everything done, and did our quick rehearsal. Then, about 2 hours later than scheduled, we headed out for the rehearsal dinner…with everyone in tow. Much fun was had, and my husband and his friends (including the groomsmen) stayed afterwards to enjoy the bar. (I had to finish a few things that night…including my veil. : )

I wish we had invited those who traveled to attend our wedding to the rehearsal dinner (mainly my extended family), but between our tight budget and not knowing who would come (only half of my family ended up attending), we decided not to as we couldn’t afford it. (It was also an hour away from their hotel, as we got married in the middle of nowhere, which helped solidify the decision at the time…and the 2 hour delay confirmed our decision afterwards.)

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Kristin Ames from BagSecrets

Both my husband and I were born and raised on the San Francisco Peninsula and most of our family remained locally. We did ask for help from a few of our family members. One of my Aunts was put in charge of our “guest book” which was actually 3×5 cards that people could leave us a message on (I later made a scrapbook with the cards and added a photo of the person from the wedding next to their card.) I had another Aunt who was a florist and she did all of our bouquets and table flowers (which saved us a TON of money.) I then had two members of each side of  our family coordinate all the family members for a large family group photo after the ceremony. My husband and I gave them all framed photos of that pictures for Christmas!

How do you plan on including family members and friends who traveled a long distance for your wedding?